#TBT: The Struggle Is Necessary

The Struggle Is Necessary

When you’re going through a struggle, it seems like everything is going down hill. You see no way for things to get better. There is no sign of hope, no matter where you turn.

The important thing is to keep going. Don’t give up on getting past the obstacle. It may last a week or a year, but you must see it through to the end. Close that chapter of your life so you can move on and continue to make progress.

It’s easier said than done, but surely you want to be on the other side, doing a victory dance. How you react to your struggle has an effect on how you handle things in your life, overall. There are three parts in a struggle where you can stop. Take a look and decide where you want to be:

  1. The beginning. When a struggle first appears, it can be scary. Unless it’s something you’ve been through and you know how to deal with it, it can be difficult finding a solution. This is where some people stop. The struggle hasn’t even begun and they automatically make the assumption that they can’t do it – it’s too hard. This response promotes complacency. They’ll likely be stuck in the same rut for the rest of their lives.
  2. The middle. Some people will give it a shot. They’ll start the process and gain a little momentum. When another challenge comes up, they’ll acknowledge it, but if nothing happens, they give up. When progress slows down, they slow down along with it. Nothing happens because they stopped putting in the effort to push forward. They never witness the breakthrough that was around the corner.
  3. The end. Few people get to the end. Those that do, are rewarded greatly. There may have been countless struggles within the big struggle, but they stood their ground and kept moving forward. They may have even slowed down, but they never quit. These are the people who have their mind set on success. They can close that chapter in their book and take on the next necessary struggle in their journey.

Struggle happens to everyone – there’s no way around it, but to go through it. There are even struggles where you make the decision to cut your losses and move on to something else. Just because it’s a struggle doesn’t mean you have to go through it, but it has to be the struggle that relates to your end goal. There will be times where you’ll know, “This isn’t the right one.”

At the same time, whenever a struggle presents itself, don’t quit before you start. Just because it came at the wrong time doesn’t mean you instantly dismiss it. Know what struggle to take on. If it’s something that will get you closer to your goal, go for it. If it has nothing to do with what you’re dealing with, it’s okay to let it go.

Sometimes, people take on other people’s struggles as their own. It’s enough to handle your own challenges, let alone, taking on someone else’s. Know your struggle and let others handle theirs.

Your struggle is the way to your accomplishments.

That’s the path to your future. Every successful person has a story about how they got to where they are. If you avoid your struggle, you are ignoring the responsibility of creating the outcome of your life.

Don’t look at your struggle as an inconvenience. We see it as a bad thing, but once you master it, it gives you the ability to operate on a higher level in the future. It’s forcing you upward, towards your greatness. Success is the reward for overcoming potential defeat.

The struggle is necessary. Don’t be so comfortable or conceited that you refuse to go through it. Decide to move forward one step at a time. It’s always worth it in the end.

#BeGoalden

Finding The Experience Within The Obstacle

Finding The Experience Within The Obstacle

Life is full of situations that go wrong, or at least, that’s the way we see it. Actually, these experiences show us who we are and what we’re made of.

You break up with a significant other, you get into a car accident, you’re 2 credits short of graduating, your shoe got caught in the vent – it goes on and on. How do you handle these moments?

Failing Is An Experience

Most of the time, things don’t go right the first time around. When that happens, is it a hint to just stop?

Most people will take it as a hint from the universe that they should give up. Failure isn’t bad, it’s just another way of saying something isn’t working. It’s an experience to learn from and do better. Taking action shouldn’t stop if you fail.

Get past what you were taught about failing – it’s not the end, it’s a suggestion. Don’t worry about others laughing at you or waiting for you to fall flat on your face. They won’t be laughing when they see your success, but you must keep failing until you get it right.

Failure simply means: this didn’t work, so try something else. Eventually, you’ll hit the nail on the head, but only if you stay focused and involved.

When Disaster Strikes

Life has a way of letting us know who’s in charge. Everything could be going well and then, something totally out of the ordinary happens.

When disaster strikes, there’s no doubt that it hurts in some way. It’s not what you expected, it happened at a bad time or, it puts your life on hold. If you’re unable to handle it immediately, you may have to take some time to work towards a solution.

Most people will play victim in these types of situations, because they are too lazy or they just don’t want to face it and deal with it. They will blame it on something or someone else and complain about the circumstances. It’s an easy way out.

While it may be true that you didn’t deserve what happened, it prepares you to conquer challenges on a greater level. It may not be what you’re used to, but if you’re determined, you’ll come out in a better position than you were before.

Save Yourself

When we have these experiences, we look to others for some sort of help or relief. That may not always be convenient, so you’re going to have to learn to save yourself.

The experiences that happen to you, are for you to learn from – it is unique to your life. What you learn from misfortune will help you in the long run, as long as you choose to cope with it constructively.

For example, what happens if you’re short on money? Most people ask for help. When you ask someone for help, they don’t have it (or pretend they don’t have it). The only option you have left, is to save yourself. Will you sink or swim? Put yourself in a position to be independent, as much as possible.

This is why it’s important to stay 10 steps ahead. If you’re short on money, maybe you should create a budget, get a second job or start your own side business. Do something with that negative experience and turn it into a teachable moment and thrive. Master the art of independence, so you won’t have to constantly be disappointed by depending on others.

Embrace The Experience

As bad as it seems, it won’t last forever. Don’t become a victim of your own life. You’re living the blueprint. Learn the lesson, be persistent and move forward with confidence.

There will be all kinds of experiences throughout life, but it encourages your personal growth. It’s not to tear you down – it’s to help develop your character and work towards your potential.

Whenever you catch yourself in a bad situation, ask, “What can I learn from this?” It’s not an easy thing to do while you’re going through it, but it will prepare you for any future challenge that may come your way.

#BeGoalden