Life is full of situations that go wrong, or at least, that’s the way we see it. Actually, these experiences show us who we are and what we’re made of.
You break up with a significant other, you get into a car accident, you’re 2 credits short of graduating, your shoe got caught in the vent – it goes on and on. How do you handle these moments?
Failing Is An Experience
Most of the time, things don’t go right the first time around. When that happens, is it a hint to just stop?
Most people will take it as a hint from the universe that they should give up. Failure isn’t bad, it’s just another way of saying something isn’t working. It’s an experience to learn from and do better. Taking action shouldn’t stop if you fail.
Get past what you were taught about failing – it’s not the end, it’s a suggestion. Don’t worry about others laughing at you or waiting for you to fall flat on your face. They won’t be laughing when they see your success, but you must keep failing until you get it right.
Failure simply means: this didn’t work, so try something else. Eventually, you’ll hit the nail on the head, but only if you stay focused and involved.
When Disaster Strikes
Life has a way of letting us know who’s in charge. Everything could be going well and then, something totally out of the ordinary happens.
When disaster strikes, there’s no doubt that it hurts in some way. It’s not what you expected, it happened at a bad time or, it puts your life on hold. If you’re unable to handle it immediately, you may have to take some time to work towards a solution.
Most people will play victim in these types of situations, because they are too lazy or they just don’t want to face it and deal with it. They will blame it on something or someone else and complain about the circumstances. It’s an easy way out.
While it may be true that you didn’t deserve what happened, it prepares you to conquer challenges on a greater level. It may not be what you’re used to, but if you’re determined, you’ll come out in a better position than you were before.
Save Yourself
When we have these experiences, we look to others for some sort of help or relief. That may not always be convenient, so you’re going to have to learn to save yourself.
The experiences that happen to you, are for you to learn from – it is unique to your life. What you learn from misfortune will help you in the long run, as long as you choose to cope with it constructively.
For example, what happens if you’re short on money? Most people ask for help. When you ask someone for help, they don’t have it (or pretend they don’t have it). The only option you have left, is to save yourself. Will you sink or swim? Put yourself in a position to be independent, as much as possible.
This is why it’s important to stay 10 steps ahead. If you’re short on money, maybe you should create a budget, get a second job or start your own side business. Do something with that negative experience and turn it into a teachable moment and thrive. Master the art of independence, so you won’t have to constantly be disappointed by depending on others.
Embrace The Experience
As bad as it seems, it won’t last forever. Don’t become a victim of your own life. You’re living the blueprint. Learn the lesson, be persistent and move forward with confidence.
There will be all kinds of experiences throughout life, but it encourages your personal growth. It’s not to tear you down – it’s to help develop your character and work towards your potential.
Whenever you catch yourself in a bad situation, ask, “What can I learn from this?” It’s not an easy thing to do while you’re going through it, but it will prepare you for any future challenge that may come your way.
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