We’ve heard it before – life isn’t fair. How is anyone supposed to deal with that? Are some people more favored than others? Why is it that some people seem to have all the luck and others don’t have any luck at all? I’ll tell you why.
Life isn’t fair. Bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. We think that good things should happen to good people and only bad things should happen to bad people. It doesn’t go that way. The truth is, all kinds of things happen to all kinds of people. The secret is in how you deal with those challenges.
Know that you are in control of your life. No one else owns it but you. It is your responsibility to guide yourself into the best life possible. When bad things happen, deal with it. Respond calmly, not dramatically. Don’t make things worse for yourself by getting frustrated. Think it through and handle it. I’ve never seen anyone solve a problem successfully by being emotional or irrational.
There are some things that happen out of our control, but we still have to respond the best way we can. Unfortunately, people die. Life doesn’t stop after someone dies. I do understand that it is an emotional time when someone loses a loved one, but at the same time, we still need to attempt to move on. Have your moment to grieve. Don’t stay in that moment for too long. Yes, that moment will come back to you at various times and when you least expect it and that’s okay. The thing you have to remember is to keep moving on. Don’t stay in your emotions for too long. At some point, it’ll be time to move forward, because that is what your loved one would want you to do.
Own it. Whether it is good or bad, make the unfair situation work for you. If it seems like you aren’t getting anywhere with a particular situation, move on to another one. I’ve seen many documentaries of people who have lost limbs and other body parts and they still find the sunshine in their rain. It wasn’t fair what happened to them, but they find a way to not let it get them down. I’m sure they have their ‘why me’ moments, but they find the strength to keep going. That’s how you accomplishing anything.
So basically, stop looking for excuses and blaming others for the unfair things life has done to you. These unfair moments make you who you are and develop your character as a person. A strong person comes from adversity and challenges. A weak person comes from nothing. Know that you can always push through to the other side – it may take time and effort, but it will pass. Just keep going forward, one day at a time.