It happens to most people. You don’t follow through on your goals. You don’t make that phone call. You don’t speak how you feel. You don’t try. All of these examples are symptoms of fear. Fear can either stop you, or it can motivate you. Some of us don’t even know that fear is the thing that’s stopping us. You must let go of fear, move forward, and continue to build your life.
Fear can be a learned reaction. If a mother is scared of water, she will unconsciously place that mental burden on her child. She overreacts every time they go to the beach and the child ends up passing on this trait to their future child. On the other hand, the child can decide that they aren’t going to be afraid of water and take swimming lessons. This is how fear can be turned into motivation. Whatever it is that scares you, learn how to do it or deal with it. After you’ve dealt with it, you won’t fear it anymore (for the most part). Don’t scare your children into your fear.
Fear can be an invisible monster. That monster that says, “You can’t win this race – look how fast they are and how slow you are.” For some reason, most of us tend to believe the negative before we believe the positive. The negative makes it easier to walk away, but the positive makes you put in some work. That invisible monster on your shoulder, that whispers sweet negative things in your ear, enjoys seeing you listen to him. He really enjoys seeing you draw back from a challenge that you want to try and accomplish. That invisible monster has reached his goal, but you have turned away from yours, because of what he says. It may be hard, but don’t listen to him. Don’t give in. You are responsible for what you do, so don’t let that invisible monster stop you from doing what you want to do. If you listen to him, you’ll end up regretting it, years down the road.
Fear won’t do anything back to you, if you say ‘no’ to it. It’ll just keep taunting you, like a bully, until you give in. You kill fear by doing what you want. Even if you fail or don’t do it right the first time, keep trying. Fear and failure are like the Negative Brothers. One stops you from doing something and the other makes you feel bad to the point of giving up. Know the fear and go on. Don’t give up. You know what it feels like, so when it rears it’s ugly head, keep going. You can do anything, but you must put fear in it’s place. It doesn’t belong in front of you, it doesn’t belong beside you. It belongs behind you and that’s where you should keep it. Take responsibility of your life and move forward – have no fear!