Everyone is guilty of worrying to some degree. Some people are natural worry warts, while others only worry when needed. Do you know how much energy active worrying takes up? I’m guilty of this, too, but I decided that if I’m going to worry, I’m going to worry about something good.
Have you ever been around someone who constantly worries? No matter when they approach you, they have something on their mind. This can be contagious, of course, only if you let it. It’s like they must find something to worry about. It could be the random cat in the street (“Oh no, the cat’s crossing the street!”) or the happy little girl who fell while running after a butterfly (“She’s devastated – how will her life end?”). It could be someone close to them is terminally ill. These are varying degrees of worry, but they all take up mental space and energy.
Understandably, being worried about something that’s worth worrying about (like an ill loved one) is natural. Like I stated before, it does take energy, but if you’re going to worry, worry about them getting well. Worry about making them laugh and bringing happiness to them. When we worry, we tend to worry about something bad happening in the end. It is a relief if it turns out great in the end, but the time and energy was wasted to begin with. Even if it ends badly, it’s still wasted energy, because you were right and you could have been working on something more constructive.
Worrying doesn’t make things better and it doesn’t help the situation. True story: When I was pregnant with my first son, he decided he was coming a month early. Everyone around me was literally going crazy – they were not helping the situation at all. A peace came over me and I realized that I did my best and right now, I can only help by keeping a level head for his sake. I can’t change if he was going to make it or not, but I could control me and my emotions. Everyone else was worrying enough for me. Well, he came out fine. All of the worry for nothing.
Some people are in a place where they know that ‘everything is everything – what is meant to be, will be’. This is a good place to be, but hard to get to. Emotions can vary at the end of any situation, but to already know you can not change the outcome, is a start. Yes, believe. Yet, also know that you have done your best to bring the situation to a positive place. If it doesn’t end the way you would have liked, have your time to work through it and move on.
This is the type of advice that doesn’t make sense until you get older. Right now, I probably sound like the evil Goalden Lady to some of you. Let life take it’s course. If you must worry, worry about how you’re going to plan out your work to achieve success. Worry about it ending wonderfully. Worrying otherwise only slows you down and possibly brings you to a permanent halt. As they say, “No worries.” Drink some water. Really. Don’t worry about it.