There is no certain way for parents to raise their children. Some children come from a bad environment and turn out bad – some children come from a bad environment and turn out good. It all comes down to choices and decisions.
When someone gets in trouble, the first thing they do is blame their upbringing:
“My mother was an alcoholic, that’s why I drink so much.”
“My dad was a gambler, that’s why I’m not good with money.”
“My mom didn’t hug me, that’s why I’m not affectionate.”
“ My dad wasn’t around, that’s why I’m not good with my children.”
True enough, these things may have happened in your life, but you don’t have to continue that negative cycle. Don’t allow the bad parts of your upbringing develop into your adult life. Stop blaming the past and change your life.
Years ago, I knew this amazing teacher. She would always explained to her class, “You have a choice and you have to face the consequences of that choice.” As simple as that seems, she hit the nail right on the head. In life, you have to make choices and own the consequences. This is the most simple, yet, profound advice that anyone could embrace at an early age.
Don’t blame your dad for your money troubles. You have the choice to either spend it frivolously or save it. Don’t blame your mother for your drinking habit. You have the choice to put the bottle to your lips or drink water. Don’t blame your dad’s absence in your youth. You have the choice of running in the streets or being with your children. Don’t blame your mom for not being affectionate towards your family. You have the choice to ignore the people in your life or open your arms and share those memorable hugs. Make the decision everyday to make awesome choices that you’ll be proud of.
Just remember, you don’t have to live the life you were brought up in. Live your own life and do what you choose to do, but always remember, you have a choice. Take responsibility for your choices. Make the best choice in everything you do. It’s OK to think and weigh your options – the more you do it, the easier it’ll become. The choices you make are your own, so take responsibility and live with the consequences. After all, it’s your life and you are in control – no one else. Break the cycle and become the great example your children (and others) deserve!