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When working towards your goal, it can be overwhelming. It’s a lot to take in, considering other responsibilities in your life. Some people have the luxury of dedicating all of their time towards their dream, but there are others who have to make it happen after hours.

You may hear of some people who claim they’re working hard, doing it 24/7. They’re hustling morning, noon, and night. They portray a lifestyle where they never stop grinding. That’s fine, but at some point, you have to stop for a minute and breathe.

Don’t think you won’t achieve your goal just because you take some time for yourself. In fact, that’s the only way you can power forward. When you allow your mind and body to rest, you perform better. Your mind can develop new ideas and your body can physically function better on another level.

It’s good to give yourself a rest. Notice, I said rest, not quit. Let’s not confuse the two. You can rest and take a vacation or even just take an evening off. It becomes an issue when you rest and then you never get back to work. That’s just quitting in slow motion.

No one knows how long it will take to reach your goal. No matter what happens, continue to move forward. You’re not giving up. You need to breathe – we all need to breathe. Take the opportunity to rest and come back stronger. Make it a part of your plan. Wearing yourself down doesn’t help anything.

When you feel worn out, take a break. It’s okay to have some downtime. Just make sure you get back on track and finish strong. Breathe and go.

Everyone experiences fear. If you let it, fear can slowly pull you away from life’s opportunities. When it comes to achieving our goals, we can create fear in our mind and it stops us before we have the chance to start. We unconsciously teach babies how to fear and even other adults, too. Fear can either help you, or hurt you.

Fear can be a healthy thing. Yes, you should be afraid to put your hand on a hot stove. Running in traffic could possibly kill you. Drinking gasoline doesn’t sound like a good idea, so it’s probably not.

In those cases, fear is a good thing. When you fear something that you’ve never done and you know it can’t physically hurt you, that’s different. In this case, fear holds you back.

When you fear starting new tasks or ideas, it can hurt your potential. Learn to step into it. The whole idea of stepping into your fear is to make your fear disappear little by little, so you can complete whatever is challenging you. If you have a fear of water, step into it – don’t dive into the pool, but start by sitting on the side and dangling your feet. If you fear talking to strangers, step into it. Simply say ‘hi’ or ‘have a nice day’. It won’t hurt. Drink some water. You can do it.

Dealing with your goals and tasks can be tricky, because when you create the illusion of fear, you’re only stopping yourself. You may try to blame something else, but it’s up to you to make things happen. You are responsible for pushing your goals ahead. Don’t allow fear to stop you from moving forward.

We all have fears that we need to step into. Just take it one step at a time. Everyday, try to accomplish a little at a time. This is how you build yourself into a better person, day by day, one step at a time. Before you know it, months and years will go by and you will have become a stronger person, by stepping into your fears!

The effort it takes to control your life and work towards your goal is tremendous. No one can live your life the way you do. This is why it’s important to stay in a circle of positive people. When you are around the wrong crowd, it can make you feel less than. Just because they say something negative to you, doesn’t make it so. Don’t be hard on yourself because of what they say about you.

Do you know that you are doing more than most people right now? It may seem like you’re just reading this post, but a lot of people don’t read. Not only are you reading, you are reading to improve yourself and to become better. You could be reading some messy gossip blog about people who are already rich, but you chose not to. That speaks volumes.

When doing the work to reach your goals, no matter how long or short they are, it takes time and courage. Do you know how many people have ideas and don’t act on them? They don’t have the courage you have. You are in the game and making it happen. The scrapes and bruises and starting over doesn’t scare you, because you are in it to win it.

They talk about you, as if you are wasting your time. Their insecurities about themselves come out towards you, but you aren’t the problem. You are making progress, but they keep finding ways to bring you down to their level. This is why you find a better circle. Be with people who will give you words of encouragement and make you feel like you can accomplish anything.

The fact that you are taking action on your idea, puts you way ahead of those who just ‘think’. Taking control of your life is the key to growth. It all starts in your mind. You are there. You are already winning.

Don’t be hard on yourself.

As a child, we had wonderful ideas. We didn’t stop to think if it was stupid or awesome. All we did was take action and improve upon the finished project. There may have been a Debbie Downer in the bunch, but it didn’t stop us from bringing the idea to life. Being able to explore was our everyday adventure.

Somewhere down the line, someone told us, ‘that’s impossible,’ and we believed it. Our freedom of thought shifted to overthinking. We no longer rushed outside to see if we could do it. The idea of ‘it can’t be done’ killed our creativity. Our brilliant way of thinking just stopped.

How do we recapture our young mind? With work, bills, and stress, it’s kind of a challenge to reconnect with the freedom of thought we had when we were children. Now, our minds are tied up with why things aren’t going the way we want them to, among other things floating around in our heads.

Our freedom of thought hasn’t gone anywhere, it’s just been pushed to the back of our minds. It’s still there, waiting to be dusted off and put to good use.

We all have goals and dreams, but for some, that’s where it stops. Take some time to think it through and figure out how to make it happen. Once that’s done, all we need to do is put in the work.

“It takes too long,” or “I haven’t seen anything happen, yet.” That’s because your goal won’t work if you don’t do it. Don’t get confused – just because the goal is in your head, doesn’t mean it will come to life by your power of thinking. It’s going to take some work.

Just like when you were a child, go for it. Don’t allow anything to hold you back. Yes, we all have responsibilities to take care of and things we must get done, but there is some down time in your schedule somewhere. That down time is when you make it happen.

We can hope and wish for our dreams to come true, but it doesn’t happen that way. When we push ourselves towards our goals, opportunities will begin to appear. Don’t let an opportunity go by, because you were shocked that it actually came your way. Be ready to take it on – this is what you worked for! It’s yours, so take it!

Let’s not get stuck in the humdrum of life. Allow your thoughts to get you excited again, just like when you were a child. Make that fort, build that go cart, and entertain your sold out audience! Life is your adventure to create. No one wants to end their life, thinking how boring it was and how they should’ve done more. Remember, it won’t work if you don’t do it.

Limits are limits, for a reason. Some limits can stop you from killing yourself and others. Some limits are used by others as a form of control. Then, there are limits that you place on yourself. Depending on which end of the spectrum you’re on, limits can save or destroy a life.

Limits can be constructive, if used in the right way. You may limit your alcohol intake or the number of negative people you hang around. In these cases, limitations are good to have. It keeps you from going over the edge and helps to maintain a healthy balance in your life. These are the kind of limits where you don’t want to go overboard with, because it could potentially be dangerous.

Some people use limits as a form of control over others. When you’ve been ‘trained’ to do something constantly, where you don’t bother to think about it, that’s control. The funny thing is, you don’t even know you’re being limited or controlled. It may take someone else to bring it to your attention, because you’ve been doing it for so long.

For example, there’s a story about the lion who was caged for most of his life. When he was rescued and put in a zoo where he had lots of room to roam, he only went as far as his ‘cage’ would allow him. The lion still had the mentality of being in a cage, even though he had more space to roam. This happens to people, too – not just animals in cages.

The worse type of limit is the one you place on yourself. When an opportunity presents itself and you say, “I can’t do that,” you’re limiting yourself. Don’t allow this type of thinking to ruin your life. Before you know it, ten years will pass by and you haven’t done anything towards your goals and dreams, because of those self-limiting beliefs.

Always believe in yourself. You have a right to think what you want to think, so it may as well be big and positive! People will place their limiting beliefs on you all day long, so don’t add to it by limiting yourself. If you have a hard time with this, there are plenty of affirmations and websites that will push you in the right direction (like The Goalden Lady). It takes practice, but like everything in life, it can be done. I believe in you!

No, you don’t. That’s the thing about life – no one knows when their time is up. People mope around, thinking and planning what they’re going to do, but they never start because they have all the time in the world.”

How about you plan to start? Do something. Whatever your goal is, it has to get going somehow. Overthinking and finding little excuses that hold you over to the next week is not helping. Learn to act upon your thoughts. Make that connection to get started. Go to the store and get the supplies. Whatever it takes to get your idea going, do it.

It doesn’t have to be perfect. No one starts out perfect. All you need is the focus to be consistent with your work. Opportunities will start to come and you’ll need to be ready to take them on and find a way to help it manifest.

Always have something to do, other than going to school or work. Don’t be too lazy with your downtime. This is where you do what you want to do and see your goals into reality. If you knew you would be gone a year from now, what goals would you work on?

Begin acting upon your goals. As they say, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” Dedicate some time everyday to your work. You don’t know when your time is going to be up, so work like there is no tomorrow.

On the other hand, what if you’re here until you’re 98? If you haven’t done anything with your time by then, you’ll have to live with the regret of not doing anything with your life that you wanted to do. Living with regret is like self-torture. Your mind will be filled with ‘what-if’ questions and you’ll think about all of the time you passed up, doing absolutely nothing.

We don’t know how much time we have left. The entire point is to live a life that fulfills you. Be able to leave a legacy or at least a story to tell. Accomplish those goals that were in your head. It may lead to an adventurous life that your grandkids would love to tell their friends. Don’t leave your grandkids (or this life) without a story. Start now.

People need different things to get them going. Some use vision boards, music, or meditation. All of these things are awesome to use when it comes to having a productive life. Who wants to wake up every morning, thinking negative thoughts?

Surprisingly, some people do like to start their day off with negative thoughts. I’ve seen people who find something to worry about, first thing in the morning. It’s like their day won’t be right, unless they worry or fret over something.

We all have a choice. I don’t know where this habit of having bad thoughts about ourselves comes from, but it needs to stop. When you get up in the morning, own the day ahead of you. Reading horoscopes and allowing it to affect you is not the way to go.

Be your own horoscope. Tell yourself, “Today will be an awesome day and I will do my best to make it so!” Why not? It’s better than worrying about nothing or expecting bad stuff to happen. Stress and anxiety are real, but it doesn’t need to happen, just because you can’t think happy thoughts. You CAN think happy thoughts.

It’s your life, make it worth living. Do something different. Talk to a stranger. Pay it forward. Do a random act of kindness. Buy a homeless person a meal. Make your life worth living.

Yes, there will be days where it won’t go as awesome as you want it to go, but put things in perspective. If you, your family, or friends aren’t dead or extremely sick, life is good. You can handle and can get over anything else.

Stop making things worse than they really are. Your thoughts are yours and you can think anyway you want to. Everyday is a good day. You have the ability to think forward or backward. Don’t beat yourself up. You deserve to make your life into whatever you want it to be, so don’t let anyone stop you with their negative thoughts.

In conclusion, don’t worry, be happy 🙂

Have you ever been sitting in traffic at the red light, and all of a sudden, you hear someone honking their horn at you, screaming, “Go!” You jump out of your daydream and immediately start driving.

This is how we should be with our goals. Instead of waiting on when we get the next check, or when we lose twenty pounds, or a host of other excuses, we should just go and do it.

I’m honking my virtual horn at you – Go!

As a mom, I recognize that we are, by far, the super humans of the world. No matter what culture or continent we live on, we take care of anything that crosses our path. Not only is it good for the baby for us to be super human, but it’s also good for our goals and other areas of our lives. You might not realize this, but a baby will give you awesome work ethic.

The “After the Baby” theory states that we become super human after the baby is born. Yes, we are awesome prior to the baby’s arrival, but afterwards, the baby forces us to have new, super abilities that we’ve never had before (or we didn’t think we had).

There’s a new life to begin once the baby arrives. Everyone thinks the baby is cute and precious. Once all the compliments subside, something happens.

The baby starts doing things you’re not used to (not unless you grew up with a baby in the house before this experience). The crying and the feedings and ‘hold me’ and all kinds of demands. As a good mom, you don’t think, you just handle it.

You begin to see that you’re letting things go a little. The house is not as clean, the laundry is piling up, and you haven’t had a good night’s sleep since before the birth.

This is the moment we never realize until someone tells us: you, mom, are about to become super human. You never thought there was a such thing as a two-minute shower or doing three things at once, successfully. Before the baby, things like that seemed impossible, but now, you do it like a pro! Powers you never knew you had. When the baby naps, you figure out a way to move the world, because you have to. You’ll soon find out that babies don’t like excuses.

Your super powers continue on through life. You do it all. If you have to go down for a sick day, nothing is the same. That’s when everyone recognizes what you do and wonder how you do it, flawlessly. Dad can try, but it’s nothing compared to the way mom does it.

This is the type of productivity we should have all the time. In order to get our goals done, we should act like there’s a crying baby, demanding our attention. Do you know how much you can get done before the baby wakes up? That’s how focused we should be, working towards our goals. Preparation, organization, time management – all of these life characteristics that help you towards your goal, comes from being a mom.

This theory can work for anyone. If you want to get the full experience, spend a couple of days with a baby. That project you thought would take two months to finish, will be done in two days. There’s no such thing as wasted time when it comes to being a mom. Everything must get done. It may be hard at times, but it’s truly one of the best gifts a baby could give a mom – the ability to do it all and to do it well!

Get rich quick does not exist. There may have been some lucky people who’ve stumbled into a financial fortune, but achieving your goal and getting money is a process. Processes take time to develop and time to work.

We all have seen it. The ‘get rich quick’ schemes that pops up whenever you’re planning your life’s goals. People say, “If you just do this, you can have six figures!” What they don’t tell you is how long it’ll take. The many rejections and adjustments that had to be made. You can do it, too, but it’s going to take more than a few weeks.

Some of us do the ‘get rich quick’ scheme and discover that this is not what it seems to be. Yes, this person has made six figures with doing social media ads, but it doesn’t happen overnight. After two weeks of waiting for it to pop off, we quit. You wasted your money and on top of all of that, you’re mad that it didn’t work as quickly as you thought it would.

You, and everybody else, can get to six figures with social media ads (or other ideas), but it takes time. The person you saw on social media who claims to have made six figures from doing ads may have that type of money, but they didn’t tell you that it took them three years of consistency and dedication to get those six figures. All they said was that you could do it, too. You only saw the end result of their journey to six figures. The internet has sped things up, but not like that.

Whatever it is you want to do, you can make great money. Just know that it takes time. There are those rare instances when someone does something out of the ordinary and makes quick money, but in most cases, it’s going to take some late nights and early mornings for it to happen. Start now and build upon what you want to do. Don’t stop after three weeks, keep moving forward and stick with it. If you have the persistence to push through and the hard work to keep at it, your end result could be beyond what you initially thought.

It takes time. Do it and stick with it.