When you’re around friends and family, it’s easy to judge them on their current situation. For some reason, judging others is something most people have to make a conscience effort NOT to do. It comes to us so easily. Even if it’s not bad judgment, it’s still judgment. We all need to learn to focus on ourselves and how we can become great in our own potential.
As a child, you’re exposed to many things. As you grow older, you tend to take on the habits that were an influence in your environment (good or bad). Judging is one of those characteristics that we gravitate toward, unintentionally. Sometimes, you have to catch yourself and force those judgmental thoughts out of your head. Judging someone is almost like second nature.
How about focusing on you? Judge yourself. Whenever you find yourself thinking negatively about someone else’s situation and how they could change it, think about what you can do to change yourself. Everyone learns in their own time. So what, she didn’t graduate high school? Don’t spend your time talking about her situation and how she should have done this and she needs to do that. You can either offer a word of encouragement or go work on yourself.
Look at yourself and know that you are a work in progress, just like anybody else. You may be ahead of the person you’re judging, but don’t look down on them. Often times, all a person needs is a nice, kind word. Your responsibility is to work on being the best you that you can be – not walking around telling everyone else how they should be. There are some things that you could work on, too. Be honest with yourself and supportive of others. There’s enough adversity going around, there’s no need for you to add to it. Thank you, but we have enough.
Work on you. Let others work on themselves. It’s not your place to tell someone else what their journey should be. Stop the silent judgment. If anything, offer a thoughtful word, work on yourself, and keep it moving.