When I talk with my friends, sometimes, we’ll began having memories of when we were younger. It always comes up, where one of them will say, “I hated him!” Then we’ll all laugh about it and move on to the next victim who we just couldn’t “stand”.
So, you hate him. He was a laundry list of just plain wrong. Remember, there was something there at first to make you like him – he wasn’t all that bad. Once you got to know him better, that’s when your feelings began to change. That’s the reason why we meet people – to see if we are a good fit or not. Some will remain friends and others will be enemies, but you don’t know until you establish some sort of relationship.
Now, he’s the scum of the earth and any other bad descriptions you can think of. That’s fine. The biggest thing you learned from him is this: he was an example of what you DON’T want. Had it not been for him, you may have ended up in a worse scenario than that. Even though it took some time, now you know, so move on. Don’t fall into the same trap again.
The truth is, everyone was put in your life for a reason. Whether it be good or bad, no encounter was a waste of time. Even people who pass you on the street and give you a warm, “hello” – it may make you feel some kind of way, depending on what type of day you are having. You may have needed that warm “hello”. Unless you’re a mean person, accept it and move on. There are few, but some people are just nice like that…and sometimes, you need it.
I know it’s not something you jump up and down and sing about, but your worst relationships could be your biggest lessons. Life is not meant to be memories full of awesome things that happen (although, we would like it to be). It’s all about your experiences, good and bad, pretty and ugly. As I remind my friends (and myself), you wouldn’t be the person you are, without your encounter with him. We could all do without the drama and bad situations in our lives, but that’s the only way we become stronger, as well as a sincere shoulder for someone else.