Everyone wants to be right in a discussion. Sometimes, discussions turn into arguments. No one wants to lose, so the argument can get very heated. You lay down your supporting points and you just can’t understand how the other person thinks they’re right and you’re not. These things can get ugly, but you should learn to let it go.
There’s a reason why they say don’t discuss religion or politics, among other things. People get really wound up when talking about the two – it’s very rare that any two people agree wholeheartedly on those subjects. There are some people who won’t let it go and they have to prove they’re right. The discussion will go on and on, into the parking lot, on the phone, etc. It won’t stop until they hear those two little words, “You’re right!”
Personally, I don’t do arguments. I’ll have a spirited debate, but when it’s over, I move on to something else. I could give a hoot whether you agree with me or not. I know what I believe in and it’s not my job to make sure that you believe it, too. Being able to debate is a very good skill to have. It’s when people get in their feelings and resort to shouting and possibly violence – that’s when it goes entirely too far.
To have peace of mind, sometimes, you just have to “lose” the argument and let it go. It’s too much, especially when you go up against someone who absolutely has to win. It’s not showing a sign of weakness, but a sign of maturity. Everyone has their opinions and you can respect that and move on before it becomes too serious.
So move on. All of that energy can be used to solve other problems and surpass insurmountable challenges. You can make better use of your time by doing something else that deserves your time. It’s like when boxers fight each other. They are focused and determined to prove their worthiness against their opponent, but when the fight is over, they talk and congratulate each other, win or lose. They appreciate and respect the sport and their opponent.
Express yourself and move on. You already know that someone isn’t going to agree with everything you say, so why bother wasting extra time and energy on it? Having debates can be a very balanced and eye-opening experience, as you listen to the other side. Just don’t let the debate turn into an argument. If it does turn into an argument, be capable of ending it peacefully. Like a boxer, you’ll live to fight/debate another day.