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Change Is Good

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Routines are a good way to increase your productivity. Once you’re in the groove, it’s like clockwork. You’re able to get more done and spend your time efficiently.

We can get so set into a routine that we are afraid to change it. Things that you do everyday in a particular manner could be done in a better way.

So you’ve been doing it like this for years and it works for you. That’s great, but did you know that technology has developed a more streamlined way of doing it? You may not like it, but give it a chance. There are lots of productive ways we could be doing things because of technology. The goal is forward movement.

Also, when you give different things a chance, it juices up your brain. You’ve been on autopilot for so long, your mind probably needs a good jolt, just to keep it in shape. Something as simple as taking another route to work will do the trick. Even if you change the type of exercise you’re doing, that will force your brain and body to improve on a new level.

Adjusting your routine will also build your confidence. When you’re successful at changing your routine, it gives you that extra boost of courage, because you mastered it. It shifted your mind and you conquered that challenge. It lets you know that you can do anything. Even if it goes left, you can handle it.

Don’t allow change to scare you. People hear that word and they freeze because no one wants to go through the hassle of adjusting to something new. Change is good – it enhances your growth and can strengthen your daily productivity. All you have to do is give it a chance.

Work Hard, Play Hard

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Working towards your goals can be time consuming. Those late nights and early mornings will catch up to you after a while. You may be so deep into your work, you forget to take a break, but it’s important to take some time for yourself.

To make your dream possible, you have to put in discipline, focus and a tremendous amount of time. If you have a regular job, it makes it even harder to go into that ‘hustle’ phase, after and before work each day.

Take some time for yourself. Whether it’s a vacation or a day or two around town, taking the time to decompress is just as important as working your butt off to make things happen.

When you step away from the work, you allow yourself the space to relax. You’ve been ‘on’ for so long that it’s become a habit. That’s a good habit to have when you’re working on reaching your goals, but you need to look up every once in a while and take a breather.

Your time is valuable, so when you decide to take a break, make it count.

Get a massage, go see a movie or take a long drive to nowhere. Leave your cell phone at home and take a digital vacation. Tell everyone you’re on a break and you’ll reconnect with them at a certain time.  Give your mind a rest so when you get back to your goals, you’ll be refreshed and full of new ideas.

Yes, the other gurus will tell you to never let up and keep going because there’s always someone else trying to take your spot. Trust me, even the gurus take a break. It’s not productive to continuously wear yourself down and expect awesome results. You’ll get better results by pacing your work with your down time.

The mistake a lot of people make is, they take a break and that’s it. They never go back to working on their goals. Their break is permanent. That doesn’t work, at all. You don’t want to take a permanent break, you just want to take some well deserved time to regroup and come back stronger, mentally and physically. Have a binge day on Netflix if you want, just be sure to get back to work.

When you work hard, you allow yourself the privilege to play hard. Don’t cheat yourself by constantly being in hustle mode all of the time. It doesn’t work that way. Take a break and you will be more productive than before!

Comfortably Complacent

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You’re working hard at completing your goal. During this time, there have been setbacks, fires for you to put out almost everyday and people who haven’t been too supportive – you know, the typical process.

Once you have successfully completed your goal, it’s celebration time! You did what you set out to do and it is, by far, one of your best achievements!

All of this is good and you deserve to celebrate what you accomplished. However, don’t celebrate too long. This is where complacency kicks in.

“I’ll just take a week off – then, I’ll get back to it.” That’s what you tell yourself. Then one week turns into two weeks and you tell yourself, “I’ll start on Monday.”

It’s catching up with you slowly and it’s starting to set in – you’re getting too comfortable and complacent. Comfortably complacent.

No big deal. It happens to the best of us. You’ve achieved your goal and you feel relieved that you can slow down for a moment. Those late nights and early mornings were starting to catch up to you.

Don’t let that comfortable feeling get in the way of your next goal. I know it feels good, but don’t let it take over. Next thing you know, it’ll be this time next year and you’ll wonder what happened.

When you find yourself becoming comfortably complacent, don’t. Start the next chapter of your goals, even if it’s just writing a blueprint of what you’re going to do within a day or so. Do something to keep up your momentum, because once you lose it, it’s hard to get back.

This is why some people advocate the ’24/7, work on your goals night and day,’ lifestyle. If you get complacent easily, that may be the best strategy for you. I’ve learned to take a few days and then, get back to work – it works for me. It’s not easy, but it can be done.

So don’t let yourself get too lazy and comfortable after you’ve successfully completed that humongous goal. Have your celebration, but don’t stay away too long. Complacency awaits you.

Making a Simple Decision

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We can make things harder than they really are. Making decisions shouldn’t be hard, but some of us are consistently indecisive.

Being indecisive takes energy. Once you get into the habit of trying to make the ‘right’ choice, it takes up time. This can lead to procrastination or other undesirable characteristics. Sometimes, a choice just needs to be made for the sake of moving on.

Making the right decision is very important. You wouldn’t want to suffer the consequences of making a bad decision. Some decisions aren’t hard to make.

If someone asked if you want to wear a green shirt or a blue shirt, that decision can be made within 2 seconds. It’s a shirt. The color may matter to some, but it doesn’t have to take 30 minutes to choose. The world won’t end if you choose to wear green today.

On the other hand, if someone asked would you rather move to another state for a job, or stay where you are for less money, that decision takes a little more thought. There are things you have to sort out so you can come up with the best decision. It’s a life changing choice that deserves more consideration.

Make it easy for yourself. Most choices are either yes or no – you will or you won’t. Don’t make it harder than what it is. Decide.

When you’re making a decision whether to do something yourself or not, go ahead and do it. If you choose not to do it, you’ll torture yourself thinking about what would have happened if you did it. It’ll take up space in your mind, because you’ll keep thinking about how you should’ve done it. Just do it and you’ll know. It makes it easier to move on.

Another tip is to go with your gut. If it doesn’t work out the way it was supposed to, then make the adjustments. The idea is that you get to move on and use your time and energy for more difficult decisions and situations.

Decide to make simple choices and move forward today. There are other things that need to get done – time waits for no one. Your day will go by smoother and you’ll use your time more efficiently.

Mind Your Thoughts

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Your mind is everything. It is the control center of your existence. No matter what you think, you have the power to make it so.

Average thoughts will get you average results. If you’re thinking, why not think on an elevated level? If someone asks you how much money you want, would you tell them $2? No, you would tell them $2 million (or more)!

It doesn’t hurt to think small. It doesn’t hurt to think big. If you have a choice, you may as well think BIG.

Just because you think it, doesn’t mean it will automatically happen. After you think it, you must put in the work. The ideas behind your thoughts have to come to life.

This is what thinking big entails – it’s the continuous process of ideas and their outcomes. Don’t be scared and stop after the first idea didn’t work. That’s just your cue to keep going until you find what works. There will be times where you’ll need to adapt and adjust until you reach your desired result.

Your brain is a tough piece of matter. It can go on and on, thinking different ideas as long as you allow it. Don’t get sensitive and stop thinking, because something didn’t work out. Think it out and see where those thoughts take you.

Patience is key. When you’re working on your ideas, some won’t work the way you envisioned it. That is totally fine, because that eliminates what doesn’t work. Now, you can come up with another idea. It may not work. That’s two ways it didn’t work. Keep going.

You are the one in control of your own thought process.

You could stop thinking whenever you feel like it, but why would you? This is how unique and creative ideas are born and brought to light. All you have to do is allow the process to move you forward.

Don’t let your thoughts guide you in a negative direction. If you think the outcome may be bad, simply think of something else that will give you a more positive outcome. Sometimes, you may have to take a risk on your choice.

Taking a risk is like taking a gamble on your choices. That’s why it’s called a ‘risk,’ because you’re taking a chance and you’re willing to accept the outcome, whether it’s good or bad. Taking risks is a personal choice, but whatever you choose to do, be sure that you are okay with the outcome, either way it goes. Don’t take a risk if going to jail is a possibility and you know you don’t want to go to jail. If it’s something worth going to jail for, you must be okay with that, because it is a real consequence.

So, please, don’t stop thinking. If it’s a negative thought, dump it. Act on the positive thoughts. Those ‘a-ha’ moments are telling you something. Listen to them.

 

Become Who You Are

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The journey to becoming who you are starts with your environment. Your environment, among other factors, shapes who you are. It either molds you into who you want to be, or molds you into what you don’t want to be.

A negative environment may not be the most ideal – it will push you to be similar to the negativity it promotes. On the other hand, it can make you go in a positive direction, because you don’t like what you see and you don’t want to become that. Therefore, you change directions and move away from it.

Use your brainpower to navigate those circumstances. Excuses will only slow you down and keep you stagnant. “My parents were alcoholics. I was bullied. My boss doesn’t like me. Everyone is against me.” You can say anything, but excuses won’t help your situation.

Know that you have a mind and you can change it. As simple as it sounds, we don’t always use it to it’s potential. Develop and become who you want to be. If your ‘friends’ don’t support what you’re doing, get a new group of friends. Join a group of like-minded people that will help you in your pursuit to becoming who you want to be.

Everyone’s not going to see your vision.

Sometimes, you have to be your own support – others will catch up, eventually. The point is this: don’t wait for someone else’s motivation. Use that desire and push yourself. Others will not always be around you, but you will always be with yourself. Learn to have your own back.

Become who you are. The keyword is ‘become.’ That’s where the work is. That’s the part you have to discover and pursue. Everyone should be working on becoming who they are. That’s life – the good, the bad, the ups, the downs, it’s all apart of developing who you are. All you have to do is figure it out and become.

If you don’t know, keep an open mind and start from something simple. Start with whatever you like to do and go do it more often. If you like to exercise, go to a class. You never know who you may meet. It may push you in the direction of starting your own gym, or it may not. You must start somewhere in order to get direction. If you don’t like the idea of starting your own gym, that’s fine. Now, you know and you can move on to something else.

You have a choice to make. Will you follow the crowd and go where the wind takes you? Or will you decide to figure out and become who you want to be? Don’t let others waste your time with their distractions. You are well equipped with an active mind. Use it to your advantage to become who you are.

There’s Mess In Progress

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You don’t see it. It seems like all this work isn’t making anything happen. You keep working and creating, but nothing’s changed. That’s the mess in your progress.

Please, don’t give up. Success doesn’t happen after you put forth two days worth of effort. Keep in mind, you are building. While you are building, you are (believe it or not) making progress.

Making progress looks like this:

  • starting from scratch
  • having ideas
  • doing what works
  • it didn’t work
  • figuring out what went wrong
  • starting over
  • different ideas
  • do it again
  • repeat

It may look like a big mess to you, but it’s called progress.

There’s not a one-minute formula that makes you succeed every time, at everything. You fail your way to success – that’s the actual progress. Very rarely, has anyone done everything correctly the very first time and was a success. It just doesn’t happen.

Don’t be afraid to fail. Failing is learning what didn’t work, so you won’t do it again. When you fail, you’re not wasting time, you’re working on making it better. Anybody else would have stopped after the fifth attempt, but you kept going and creating and figuring the little things out. That’s what leads to success.

Imagine if we could be a success after the first attempt at everything. Success wouldn’t be success, because everybody would be successful. There would be no value in it. Everyone would be successfully average.

Do the work and see the results.

Everyone sees the results, but no one sees the process. The progress is in the process – that’s where all the blood, sweat and tears happened. That’s where late nights and early mornings happened. That’s where your mind kept going, after your body was tired. That’s where, “I can’t do this” turns into “I got this.”

Other people will talk you out of it. Don’t join them and talk yourself out of it, too. It’s not that it’s never going to work – you’re just not finished, yet. That’s it. Keep going.

Have faith in yourself and know that you are capable of achieving success. The mess in the middle is a way of pushing you towards your greatness. Work through it. Success is just on the other side and you’ll be happy you did.

 

Your Life, Your Adventure

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This is your life. Do not live out the life your parents have envisioned for you. Do what makes you happy.

There are kids graduating from high school or college and they’re moving on to the next phase of their life. Your parents mean well, but do not feel forced into living the life they have planned for you.

This is probably the first big decision you will have to make, because your parents have been telling you what to do for most of your life. It’s hard for them to stop telling you what to do and it’s even more challenging for you to step into your independence and make your own decisions.

It may disappoint them and cause a little drama when you do this, but be strong. The last thing you want is to regret what you did not do. You will be so unhappy and miserable, because you didn’t follow your dream – you followed someone else’s dream.

Parents (or others) think they know what you should do when it comes to making these types of decisions. Amy wants to be an artist, but her mother has been pushing her towards being a lawyer. Amy could be an awesome lawyer, but her life probably won’t be as fulfilling, because it’s not what she wanted to do.

Your parents want the best for you and they care about how your life turns out. It can only turn out well if you’re happy. This means you must do what makes you happy, not what makes mommy and/or daddy happy. There will be challenges along the way, but it happens. It doesn’t mean you were wrong. It’s part of the process of becoming a responsible adult. Take care of the challenge and continue on.

It’s surprising how many kids are in college, majoring in careers because that’s what their mother or father did. “My grandfather was an accountant, my father is an accountant, so I’m majoring in accounting.” Is this what you really want to do, or are you just lazily following the pattern?

There have been some instances where a child actually likes what the family career is and they don’t mind following the pattern. That’s fine. On the other hand, if you’re not so thrilled about it, you can do what you like to do. It may cause backlash, but this is your happiness. Claim your independence. They will get over it.

Some parents want to live their lives through their children. Even as a parent, they must understand that your life is your own. You have choices to consider. This is your life, your adventure. No one else can live it the way you can. In the end, you will become the successful and happy adult you were meant to be.

Own Your Success

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You work hard to see your goals become reality. Everyday, you have exercised commitment, sacrifice and determination.

One day, it happens. You’ve achieved success. When it hits you, it’s an indescribable feeling. So many things and various moments have gone into getting you here.

The entire time, it’s been an internal struggle. After success, it becomes an external struggle.

The internal struggle is you. The doubts in your mind, the way some people make you feel with their indirect comments, the avoidance of failure by not doing anything at all – it’s all internal.

These are the negative thoughts you have to deal with during every waking moment. It consumes your mind. The awesome thing is, you’re strong enough to not let it hold you hostage all of your life. You’ve become better at managing those damaging thoughts.

It takes practice to get past these whispering voices of doubt. They sound so comforting and convincing. “You don’t have to prove yourself – no one else is stressing over personal success. Let’s do it some other time – see what’s on social media.”

There’s another tiny voice in your head that pushes you. “Let’s see if we can do something extraordinary – why not? Let’s not sit here and do nothing. Let’s see how much we can get into!”

That’s the voice you listened to and it carried you to success. Yes, there were times when things didn’t go right, or an outside force made things go left, but you remained focus. According to your mind, nothing was going to stop you from winning.

The external factor is your environment. Some people are genuinely happy for you and others seem a little distant. They make off the wall comments whenever your success comes into the conversation. The voice of doubt rears it’s ugly head, once again.

“Don’t talk about your accomplishment – it makes them uncomfortable. It makes you look like you’re better than them.” All of this is not true at all, but you give in and dumb down your existence, just to put them at ease.

If they were your real friends, you wouldn’t have to do that. You wouldn’t have to explain your achievement or not mention it at all, just to save their hurt little feelings. Don’t brag about your success, but don’t downplay it for the sake of someone else who may be jealous. That’s their problem.

You deserve the success that you create. You deserve a positive mindset that allows you to imagine those fantastic ideas. You deserve people around you who are supportive and happy for your wins.

You worked hard and you achieved success. OWN IT! There are people who will appreciate it and there are people who will criticize and give negative feedback. Instead of being jealous for no reason, they should figure out their own path and look upon you as inspiration.

Don’t ever cut yourself short for someone else. You are worthy of your success. Everyone has to take responsibility for their own future. Don’t let other people’s weak emotions stop you from what you want to achieve. Everyone’s path may be different, but we all have a shot at being successful.

Attitude Is Everything

Everyday, we have the chance to wake up and be our best. We don’t have to ask permission or be forced into an average mindset – we wake up as a blank slate. It’s the start of a new day and we get to choose how we go into it.

Exactly, what choice do we have? I can choose to start my day with good intentions. I can choose to start my day being sad. If something happened the night before that really angered me, I may choose to start the day mad because I remembered what happened the night before.

Once we choose how to start the day, it determines our attitude. To wake up being grateful is the perfect way to begin. Think of all the things you’re thankful for and you’ll immediately start the day with happiness.

On the other hand, if you had a bad day yesterday, try not to let it follow you into the next day. If you got a traffic ticket the day before, your attitude may not be the best. Don’t allow that attitude to carry over into the rest of the day or the following day.

A bad attitude has the ability to creep into your mind and live there. Every thought that comes into your head will be greeted with a negative vibe. You’ve already lost before you even begin to have a great personal thought.

Things happen. Your attitude is the measuring stick of your present feelings. If you’re having a great day, you have a great attitude. If you’re having a terrible day, you have a terrible attitude. Have an even, positive attitude no matter what happens. Sometimes we forget, but we do have that choice.

First, have awesome thoughts when you wake up in the morning. You will have a magnificent day – be positive about what may happen. Starting off with an angry attitude sets you up for a negative day. You may bring down a good mood in every room you walk into. Don’t be that person who sucks the energy out of a room because of a funky attitude.

Second, don’t allow a bad attitude to stick with you. Yes, it can be hard to get through the day after something has brought you down, but it doesn’t have to ruin your entire day. If someone passes away, it’s understandable that you’re sad – that’s something that will take a while to work through.

If someone is driving slow in front of you, it may be annoying, but you can adjust your attitude once the situation is over. Don’t carry it into work, lunch and into family time. It’s ridiculous because it is robbing you of an otherwise, potentially great day. Your family will see you being grumpy and it takes away from them (and it’s not even their fault!)

Also, having a terrible attitude may prevent an opportunity from coming your way. I’ve heard of many situations where someone was about to be offered an opportunity, but because of their attitude, it didn’t happen. You’ll never know when an opportunity may present itself, so always have a gracious and positive demeanor.

Another way is to know that each step you take, you’re about to walk into a different situation that deserves a fair shot. You wouldn’t want to see someone, say ‘hello’ and they just snarl at you for no particular reason. Even if you are about to do something you don’t like to do (for example, washing dishes), do it with a smile. It has to get done, so you may as well do it with a smile and make it as happy of a moment as you can.

Having a bad attitude doesn’t help anyone. If you can help it, why not have an awesome attitude whenever you can? It beats being down and giving off bad vibes. It is in your control to be the best you can be. If you don’t have to have to be a grump, don’t be a grump. Your day will be much better for making that impactful, small decision.